3 Ways To Quickly Demonstrate Your High Value To A Woman
If you think you can just learn a secret system or technique and be successful with women, you would get a rude awakening. You can memorize a bunch of lines and routines and go out and approach women. This will be successful only to break the ice and get your foot in the door. To successfully pickup women, you have to emotionally engage a woman, and not just use mechanical techniques.
Many guys have the misconception that pickup techniques are only about dropping lines, gimmicks, and routines. Ultimately though, effectively attracting a woman has to do with making an unique emotional connection between you 2. It's not only about the lines you're spouting or the techniques you're dropping but you need to adapt and adjust to the type of person she is, what she's thinking, and what she's feeling. This is what is known to pickup artists as "calibration.".
After you have approached a woman and successfully opened the door, you have to immediately move into demonstrating your high value. In other words, you have to emotionally engage a woman and bring her into your reality. There are three main ways to do this:
A) Cocky/Funny.
This is acting cocky in a funny way. Not being downright disrespectful or a comedian, yet being smart and confident in what you say. The following is a very basic sequence of a cocky/funny sequence:
You: So what was your name once more?
Woman: Cathy.
You: Nice name, you spell that with a K or C ?
Woman: K.
You: Are you serious? Haha, I don't want to speak to you anymore ...
Girl: WTF? Why not?!
You: Every Kathy that spells her name with a K is trouble ... Like I know a Cathy with a C and she's a buddy, every Kathy that spells it with a K I know has actually been such a party girl. awful influences on my life ...
The most important aspect of the above interaction is not the cocky/funny itself but how you're bringing her into your reality. You are using a concept called, "push-pull." This is basically when you say something negative followed by something nice, and back and forth again. By doing this, not only are you attracting her with your cocky/funny routine, you are establishing a personal, emotional connection with her.
B) Routines and gimmicks.
There are all sorts of gimmicks and routines you can use to demonstrate your value. One of the most effective routines are magic tricks. A woman will ooh and ahh at a magic trick and will instantly create intrigue and interest towards you. However, this does not necessarily create attraction. To create attraction, you have to emotionally engage a woman with your trick.
Once again, this means to bring her in to your reality. This is done by engaging her and absorbing her into your magic trick. You do a trick that actively involves her in to the trick. Stuff like reading her thoughts or guessing the letter she's thinking etc. functions well to engage her emotions.
C) Understanding and reading her.
Women will be irresistibly attracted to you if you understand them as an individual and recognize the kind of individual she is. The following is a sample dialogue that demonstrates this point:
When I first met you, you seemed kind of cold, but I don't know... You know there are two types of people in this world. Those who observe and those who are observed, and you seem more like the observer type of person. I think when people first meet you, they'll think you're cold and distant but that's only because they don't know you. You experience the world through your emotions and just want to make sure that the people you let into your life are genuinely good people. But that's just a shield you put up to protect yourself because when you're around the right people and having fun, you can let go and be yourself. And that's what you're looking for in life, i think, people who you can be real with and who really understands you as a person.
This is among the most powerful ways to immediately emotionally engage a girl. This will quickly create powerful attraction as well as connection. However, you actually need to be observant and thoughtful, which only comes with skill and experience.
The point of all these is to emotionally engage a woman. Everything you do, all the gimmicks, lines, and tricks you throw down has no meaning unless you engage a woman and make an emotional connection. Keep the boring talk to a minimum. As soon as you open the door and get in, immediately engage her emotions through the above techniques.
Many guys have the misconception that pickup techniques are only about dropping lines, gimmicks, and routines. Ultimately though, effectively attracting a woman has to do with making an unique emotional connection between you 2. It's not only about the lines you're spouting or the techniques you're dropping but you need to adapt and adjust to the type of person she is, what she's thinking, and what she's feeling. This is what is known to pickup artists as "calibration.".
After you have approached a woman and successfully opened the door, you have to immediately move into demonstrating your high value. In other words, you have to emotionally engage a woman and bring her into your reality. There are three main ways to do this:
A) Cocky/Funny.
This is acting cocky in a funny way. Not being downright disrespectful or a comedian, yet being smart and confident in what you say. The following is a very basic sequence of a cocky/funny sequence:
You: So what was your name once more?
Woman: Cathy.
You: Nice name, you spell that with a K or C ?
Woman: K.
You: Are you serious? Haha, I don't want to speak to you anymore ...
Girl: WTF? Why not?!
You: Every Kathy that spells her name with a K is trouble ... Like I know a Cathy with a C and she's a buddy, every Kathy that spells it with a K I know has actually been such a party girl. awful influences on my life ...
The most important aspect of the above interaction is not the cocky/funny itself but how you're bringing her into your reality. You are using a concept called, "push-pull." This is basically when you say something negative followed by something nice, and back and forth again. By doing this, not only are you attracting her with your cocky/funny routine, you are establishing a personal, emotional connection with her.
B) Routines and gimmicks.
There are all sorts of gimmicks and routines you can use to demonstrate your value. One of the most effective routines are magic tricks. A woman will ooh and ahh at a magic trick and will instantly create intrigue and interest towards you. However, this does not necessarily create attraction. To create attraction, you have to emotionally engage a woman with your trick.
Once again, this means to bring her in to your reality. This is done by engaging her and absorbing her into your magic trick. You do a trick that actively involves her in to the trick. Stuff like reading her thoughts or guessing the letter she's thinking etc. functions well to engage her emotions.
C) Understanding and reading her.
Women will be irresistibly attracted to you if you understand them as an individual and recognize the kind of individual she is. The following is a sample dialogue that demonstrates this point:
When I first met you, you seemed kind of cold, but I don't know... You know there are two types of people in this world. Those who observe and those who are observed, and you seem more like the observer type of person. I think when people first meet you, they'll think you're cold and distant but that's only because they don't know you. You experience the world through your emotions and just want to make sure that the people you let into your life are genuinely good people. But that's just a shield you put up to protect yourself because when you're around the right people and having fun, you can let go and be yourself. And that's what you're looking for in life, i think, people who you can be real with and who really understands you as a person.
This is among the most powerful ways to immediately emotionally engage a girl. This will quickly create powerful attraction as well as connection. However, you actually need to be observant and thoughtful, which only comes with skill and experience.
The point of all these is to emotionally engage a woman. Everything you do, all the gimmicks, lines, and tricks you throw down has no meaning unless you engage a woman and make an emotional connection. Keep the boring talk to a minimum. As soon as you open the door and get in, immediately engage her emotions through the above techniques.
